When I woke up this morning I started my normal routine just like any other day. After thanking God for the blessings He has given me, and a brand new day to become what I hope will be a better person, I started thinking about what I could do to make becoming a better person happen. What could I contribute to make the world around me a better place? I’m still not sure I know the answer to that but I do know that is my intent by writing these blog posts. If I can help one person then pouring my heart and soul out to the world will be worth it.
“Some days are diamonds, some days are stone”
This is the title of a John Denver song that was popular when I was younger. I didn’t really understand it’s meaning then, but as I got older it became the story of my life. Some days I wake up ready to take on the world. Other days, it’s hard to even get out of bed. I suffer from anxiety and depression and on these days I find myself wondering if the prize is worth the fight. What gets me through these days? My family, my friends, and my faith.
Finding the positives among all of the negatives
There is so much frustration, anger, and hate in this world today. It is up to you to find the bright side of the situations you are dealing with. I know right now it’s especially hard with everything that is going on in this world but if you don’t seek, you won’t find. You are responsible for your own happiness. I know it’s not easy, I struggle with it everyday. It’s okay to have bad days, just don’t let them last for too long. Remember, there is always someone who can help you. All you need to do is reach out.
“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” – Frederick Douglas
The struggle is real
I saw the quote above this morning as I was going through my emails looking for some motivation. Again I thought to myself, “my whole life has been a struggle, so where’s the progress?” Nothing has ever been handed to me. I’ve always had to work for everything I have. I have failed, and I have succeeded but most importantly, I’ve learned. I guess that’s where the progress is. Chances are you can relate to what I’m saying because you have struggled too.
Life is about learning
Think about it. Nobody is born knowing how to walk or talk, how to cook, raise children, etc. We all have to be taught these things. The difficult part is separating the “good” from the “bad’, the “right” from the “wrong”.
Lately we hear a lot about the “new normal”, but what was the old “normal?” Who defines “normal?” According to the dictionary normal means; conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected. Who says that what’s normal for you is normal for me? We are all individuals so we must learn to accept each other’s idea of “normal” and not judge each other based on our beliefs. It’s okay for you to think the world is square. Just because I believe it’s round doesn’t mean we can’t accept each other does it? Unfortunately that is how people are behaving these days. “If you don’t agree with me we can’t be friends”. Does anyone besides me think this is childish?
We are what we see growing up (a/k/a history repeats itself)
I used to believe that to be true. What I mean is, I used to believe that what we saw growing up is what we would become. Now I see that some of what we become is a choice we have made. For instance; a child of an addict who knows that they are predisposed to the illness has a choice whether they take that first drink or use those recreational drugs, likewise, someone who comes from a family with a history of heart disease may be able to prevent themselves from also having it if they eat healthy and exercise. We don’t have to be like our relatives, we choose to.
The decision is yours to make
Many times in life we have the choice of whether to go down the “straight and narrow” road or to take the “curvy and winding” road. My advice? Take the one that is best for you. You are the only one who can decide that.
When I was in high school, there were some people in my life that felt I should go to college. I knew that I didn’t want to so rather than waste the time and money I opted to go right to work. I dabbled at a couple of things before starting a job with a municipality. Thirty-two years later I still work for that municipality. That didn’t stop those who felt that college was the only answer from continuing to believe that. Not once did they say that I was right in my decision or that they were proud of me for making a good life for my children and myself but that’s okay because I am proud of myself and that’s what matters. At the end of the day, YOU have to live with your decisions.
Don’t let fear stand in your way
When I first began working for the County, I was in an entry level position. I transferred to another County department 1 1/2 years later, also into an entry level position. I am still in that department and have worked my way to the highest level I can achieve in my division. With each new position there was a new Civil Service test required. In some cases, all I had to do was pass the test. In others, I had to place within the top 3. Either scenario was nerve wracking but I didn’t let fear stop me. You must believe in yourself and your ability to be who or what you want in order to succeed. Don’t let your fear of the unknown stop you.
Each day that you awaken is a day that God has given you to shine. It’s a brand new day so make the best of it, do what you want to do, be who you want to be. Above all, be thankful that you’ve been given the opportunity to make a difference.
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