How many times have you let someone walk all over you because you didn’t want to upset them? How many times have you just accepted what was being said even though you knew it was not the truth? For many of us, this is a normal way of life. I’m here to tell you that it is a very unhealthy way of life. So starting today, it’s time for you to “stand up for you.”
People aren’t mind readers. If you don’t speak up and express your thoughts or feelings they will assume you’re okay with whatever is said or decided. This doesn’t mean you have to be aggressive or defensive, simply state your opinion or feelings on the topic.
Figure out what is really bothering you
If you’re the type of person who goes with the flow to avoid making waves you are hurting yourself more than you realize. Eventually you may become angry or bitter. Working through the issue releases its hold on you thus, reducing the stress and anxiety you’re feeling.
Be deliberate and confident
Be straightforward, tell people how you really feel without being accusatory or belittling them. Don’t be overly accommodating. Walk with your head held high and make sure you’re polite, open, and honest.
Realize your time is precious
Don’t let others monopolize your time. Unless the boss assigns you an important task that must be handled immediately, you are in charge of your day. Push back or tactfully remove yourself from situations or people who insert themselves into your schedule without permission. Don’t let someone else put you in a position where you are feeling stressed out or stretched for time to complete your tasks.
You are important
No one can invalidate you. Your beliefs, emotions, ideas and thoughts belong to you. No one else can tell you what to think. No one else can tell you that what you believe is wrong. Although it may differ from others’, your opinion matters and you have the right to state it.
Believe in you
There will always be someone who doesn’t agree with you. Be patient and believe in yourself and your ability to state your case. If you feel you’re being bullied stand your ground. Don’t become frazzled or react in anger. Don’t cater to them just to get them to stop. Always take the high road and believe in yourself. Take your time, state the facts, be confident and remember, you are the best person to stand up for you!